I always thought that a stepmother refers to the father’s new wife taking the place of the mother when the mother of the children died, however, suddenly my children while living fulltime in my house, had a stepmother. I googled the definition of stepmother and you get some pretty tough colloquial definitions of a stepmother written by young people, from their experience. If I take the children’s tale, Hansel and Gretel; their mother died when they were young and the stepmother had a serious hidden agenda. And yet society today believes that a stepmother, while the mother is alive, would naturally not 'eat the children's food' and that she would genuinely love and care for them. While having had to create a new life from scratch and even a j.o.b. for myself, I also had to put up with my children’s stepmother who is an expert on bling, celebrating my children's special occasions, and then sending those items to my home. I thought the role of the new wife would be to help the father to love and care for his children, but, I had to appeal to the High Court because the stepmother wanted to sit my children, against their will, while they lived with me, just because her job allowed her to be more home than the father who kept working his normal hours. I became a stepmother too, but then figured out that I was better at helping my husband build his business and to assist him in strengthening the relationship with his sons and grandson; this, while we are not allowed at any family gatherings because the mother of his children is attending. Children, especially teenagers, find it difficult to cope with two parents, especially through divorce; why give them four?