This is a question being circulated on facebook regularly, so I want to discuss it here today. If you are a fundamentalist Christian or believe in the caveman theory, the answer would be yes he has to defend you. We live in the third millennium and many things have changed. So instead of beating myself up because my husband does not defend me against his family, I have learned the art of defending myself. Anyway, my husband does not even defend himself against his family, so it is hardly possible for him to defend me. Him defending me also means being ostracised by his family and then he will resent me for being cut from his family. Defending myself means rebuking them once and then simply to walk away. So my husband attends family gatherings without me and we have agreed that he does not tell me anything that has happened at a gathering. This way, not knowing leaves him free to be who he is and me being able to enjoy my own company. For those wondering why his family refuses to accept me: they belong to the part of society that have not experienced hardship in this country! So my advice in dealing with such family violence is, Rebuke once and walk away.
|Susanna Susara Kruger||
Author, Speaker, Educator & Entrepreneur