I do not like rules, so when my children were still young, I realized that I will have to rely on relationship building, instead of rules, to raise them. I am good at building children’s self-esteem and letting them express their views, adamantly. Being safe with me, they do exercise their rights regularly. When their rights are overriding my rights, I stand up for myself. It is my way of teaching them to stand up for themselves. I am now a grandmother, while happy to adapt, relationship building will prevail.