Parenting, in New Zealand, is largely dictated by the dominant culture. As I personally like space and quiet, I like giving children space and quiet: to learn what they want, when they want, and how they want. My role as a parent (or educator) is to give them plenty of learning opportunity though. I have learned that what is one person’s thing to learn is another person’s thing NOT to learn. From my perspective, western parents tend to talk much, calling it ‘prompting,’ but do not give children enough space to process learning for themselves. I often see ethnic parents spending time with their children, with hardly any talk happening. Does this mean less learning for the children? Not at all. It is easy to feel intimidated by the parenting style of the dominant culture; however, I suggest, stick to your own culture. Trying to copy another parenting style may end up making you miserable – not worth it.
|Susanna Susara Kruger||
Author, Speaker, Educator & Entrepreneur