I have come to understand that the man you share children with is not necessarily the man you share life with. I tried to hold on to the biblical principle of ‘in sickness and in health’ for too long, resulting in an unfulfilled relationship with the father of my children. Had I quit earlier, our divorce may have been more amicable; however, having tried so hard, at least I can now live in peace knowing that I did everything I could to save my marriage. I am not advocating divorce, but in hindsight, I am advocating an early split while things can still be sorted in a civilised manner. Apart from miss-carriages, an abortion and bringing children into this world, I also went through a cancer scare, without the support of my then husband who did not respond well to sickness. Our relationship breakdown was a fight over ‘money’ though, [a topic for another blog] which came about since we immigrated to New Zealand. I differ from the average Christian interpretation of marriage and how they see becoming one, which, in practice means that the one is living their life within the life of the other – see the [first] picture on the left below – religious oppression. With all due respect, I believe that what God meant with oneness is better explained by the [second] picture on the right below – eternal love. Now being married to my soul mate, I hope to grow old with him, in health and in sickness!