I worked for six months at a night club - a choice I own - receiving cash and diligently banking it so that I could provide proof of income to obtain a bank loan to pay my lawyer, who later put a caveat over my property until I could pay him, and to start creating the j.o.b. I have today. Paid sex which is legal in New Zealand, is seen to be a sin by those who take part in free sex while they cover up their contribution to the cause of a legalised sexual abuse industry. My body was in top form, so I did not only survive the six months but learned first-hand the pros and cons that make the sex industry the only option for many! I firmly believe that when a man financially provides for his woman and children, that he is allowed ‘free’ sex which in fact, could then be seen as paid sex within a monogamous relationship. When a woman has to provide financially for herself and the children, then the man cannot expect free sex on top of everything else the woman has to be, and often then opts for free sex where he does not carry any responsibility. From the many good women I met in the night club, I now believe that paid sex is not the only cause of a legalised sexual abuse industry, but free sex is – needy women who provide free sex to married men, gold digging from what the wives have gathered, and breaking families up. My former husband was no longer prepared to share his salary with me and the children so he opted for free sex; if only he were happy now, but he continues his abuse remotely, even after six years of separation. By no means do I promote the sex industry, however, it has to be seen as the symptom of a sick society. To stop the legalised sexual abuse industry, first stop the legalised financial abuse industry. I immigrated to New Zealand under the skills category and when I needed a job, there was none, so I used my wife skills to make a living!