I am from the era when children were told what to do, and had to obey. While it made life easier for the parents, it did not make life best for the children. On the other hand, today’s way of communicating with children, whereby parents are bound to be the ‘obedient’ ones, does not work either. I have learned that effective win-win parent-child communication only happens, when the parent can do so from an emotionally centered position. I recall a time in my parenting that I am not proud of, when I took my anger towards an adult, out on my child. Angry at my mother-in-law for interfering with my parenting, I gave my daughter a hiding; she remembers it to this day. So, in parenting, when a child upsets you, first center your emotions, even if you walk away, before dealing with the problem. A child does not turn into a brat overnight; you have time to think before you act.