We live in a society where “It’s Not OK” campaigns seem to be targeting men; however, from my experience, women are the worst, or should I say the best, at covering up abuse and violence. Through my divorce, when I needed the support of women, they stunned me with responses such as: (1) Suck it up – what happened to you happened to thousands of others – you are not the first and only; (2) I get that you walked out with nothing, but, you should have known, that’s what happen when you divorce your husband; (3) Well, you sacrificed your career for your children, which is good, so then don’t complain about having exclusive responsibility for them; (4) This is the cost of Motherhood (or Womanhood); just accept it; or (5) Let’s face it: You are the one who put financial constraint of your family by not ‘working’. The father of my children has once again not contributed a single cent to replace the children’s car, which I bought years ago, after it was recently stolen and written off. When the news broke, he straightaway went to photograph the car plus he went with them to test-drive cars; when it came to checking a particular car, negotiating the deal and paying for it, he disappeared off the radar. This left me with having to carry the cost of protecting my children from the self-righteous neglect of their father on the one hand and the inherited care of their 'stepfather' on the other hand. Similarly, when the girls were learning to drive and getting their drivers licences, their father did not lift a finger to help – I was left with having to make it happen, together with their 'stepfather', not only costing me money but time and stress too. This is why I will keep writing about these things, until Somewhere Someday Someone may be prepared to stand up and say: ‘Enough is enough’. The father of my children and I came to this country, both as professionals, but one of us had to be the wife and mother; it ended up being me, and I will not let my daughters grow old with the belief: Mom, just suck it up! An employment driven education raises people to believe that a ‘non-working’ Mother and her daughters do not deserve a decent car or can walk and bus where they need to be. Paving the way for an entrepreneurial education system, I hope to set the record straight.
I lost my Kruger Estate, in New Zealand, because as the visionary, shaker and doer I 'delegated' the tasks relating to technology, numbers and legislation to others. Over the past six years, however, I have become skilled in the technological, numerical and legal matters in relation to my personal and professional life - never again to give my power away! BRIEFLY EXPLAINED - Nowadays I am using a long list of tools such as Weebly for Education Pro; Office 365 & 2016; Social Media, Online Book Publishing etc.; Xero Accounting; Samsung Galaxy S7 Phone; Windows 10 Lenovo Laptop; and more. This August I will be attending, now as a Certified Bookkeeper seeking to further the interests of micro business owners, the annual conference of the New Zealand Bookkeepers Association (NZBAI). I am also now registering my intellectual property and trademarks while managing the seven trusts and companies that constitute GOLORE. New Zealand claims to be geared for small business enterprising, however, I found that 'professionals' do not really understand the micro business owner - at GOLORE we love micro business owners and teach them the tricks of the trade based on personal experience. Being a lifelong entrepreneur / author / speaker / consultant, who went from riches to rags to riches, my actual claim to fame is that I have traded myself out of poverty!
|Susanna Susara Kruger||
Author, Speaker, Educator & Entrepreneur