I am a person who enjoys my own company; I am often alone – I am hardly lonely though. Oprah Winfrey says that she loves being alone with her own thoughts; the same for me. I could easily live in a desert for as long as I have a writing pad of some sort so that I can write my thoughts down. When alone, I can process my feelings so that I get to know myself better each day. I can appreciate the wisdom which comes to me and gather the courage to express it with compassion. I can be centered so that I follow my intuition against the push of the world. I can grow to become more independent and interdependent instead of looking at others to define me. I can believe in myself like no-one else will do for me, based on what my soul is telling me. I can love myself regardless of rejections by others; so that I can not only survive but move forward in life. I can be still; listening to the sound of silence.
An African proverb states: “Children are the reward of life.” So, children are not our possessions but they are our reward, especially after having taken responsibility for them, every day of our life, for 20 odd years. Unfortunately, when you are ‘just-a-mother’ or a ‘mainly-mother’ as I call us; family, church, court and society go out of their way to steal our children to add to their power. It is easy to say that this is the way of life, just to suck it up and accept it; but, it takes a crazy courage to stand alone and say, enough is enough. I am confident that my active voice, not only talking problems but creating solutions too, will - in due course - change a room, a city, a state, a nation and the world [paraphrased from a quote by Former USA President: Barack Obama]. For my voice to be heard, I cannot afford to fear a storm; I have to BE the storm. The time has come for mainly-mothers to unite.